Sylvester Onyemalechi edited by coach abbeyg

Why People Have Sex Before Marriage

1. Belief that they are just like any other person and cannot stay without sex

The devil is a trickster, and unfortunately, he has tricked a lot of young people to believe that they are human and they should not try to be super human though the bible teaches that the believer is super human in the sense that he has the life and nature of Christ received at the new birth.

“Therefore, if anyone is in Christ, he is a new creation; the old has gone, the new has come!” 2 Cor 5:17 NIV

So as a result, they don’t make effort anymore to resist the temptation to fornicate. They simply join the crowd to do it. It is so bad now that some youths will tell their parents and guardians that they are going to service or vigil meetings while they are going to meet their lovers for their evil acts. You have what it takes to resist the devil and be free from this evil. You are a supernatural being with the life of God and you are well equipped to resist the temptation to immoral behavior. The life you have received from Jesus guarantees freedom from all forms of sin, sexual sins inclusive.

2. Belief that God will always forgive when we confess our sins

Another lie the devil seems to have succeeded in sowing into the heart of youths today is the belief that they can always confess their sins to God and he will always forgive them because he is a God of love and does not want to lose them. He makes them believe that God himself made that provision, and that once a son always a son. If you have thought like this in your mind, I want you to read this scripture:

“Do not be deceived: God cannot be mocked. A man reaps what he sows. The one who sows to please his sinful nature, from that nature will reap destruction; the one who sows to please the Spirit, from the Spirit will reap eternal life.” Gal 6:7-8 NIV

This scripture reveal that every man will reap what he has sown and we should not be deceived by the lie that God can be fooled by our so called confession of sins. It is a delusion to believe that God does not know what you have in your mind – that you are not serious about turning from your immoral life. How could you ever think that God in his infinite wisdom will not know the one who truly repents from the one who is just pretending?

God knows when a man repents and when he does not. Apostle Paul says, “God cannot be mocked”. Therefore, do not be deceived to think you can fool God with your confessions that are without repentance. Goknows the difference. Moreover, Paul also wrote to the Ephesian church that Jesus is coming from a church without spot (stain, sin), wrinkle (evil habit which develops with time) and blemish (evil character).

Jesus wants people who are purging themselves daily to qualify to go with him at his coming. Don’t let the devil deceive you again, “A man reaps what he sows”. Keep your pants up. Always remember to zip up.

3. Belief that no one will find out what they are doing

There is nothing hidden under the sun that shall not be revealed. Jesus taught us to believe that what is done in secret will be brought to the open.

“So do not be afraid of them. There is nothing concealed that will not be disclosed, or hidden that will not be made known. What I tell you in the dark, speak in the daylight; what is whispered in your ear, proclaim from the roofs.”  Matt 10:26-27 NIV

One way or the other, it will be known. If your leaders do not discover what you are doing, God knows and he will definitely reward you. Don’t be deceived, you are surrounded and there are eyes watching you.

4. Belief that “as long as we are getting married it doesn’t matter, and more so, our parents have given their approval to our marriage”

Until the marriage vow is taking before witnesses in the presence of the Lord, officiated by a minister of the gospel or government approved official, you are not married. Any sexual act before that is sin in the sight of God. It is called fornication. Stay away from it for it will lead you to hell. It can bring a curse on your intended marriage.

 To be continued! Look out for PART 3. You don’t want to miss it …

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